The Great Interruption

  There are in life, principles that govern relationships.

  Good relationships don’t happen randomly.

These principles are as reliable as gravity and the law of physics. When we work with them, they will produce a predictable desired result and when we work against them they will also produce a predictable but undesirable result.

For example, if we jump off a building, we know that gravity will do its thing.  No one will be surprised or blame gravity because it is a law that operates regardless.

The same is true of relationships. The laws or principles that govern relationships will operate, whether we are aware of them or not, or disagree with them. They will still operate. They are a reality that we can’t change.

One of these principles is the Law of Sowing and Reaping (‘The Ten Laws Of Boundaries’ from ‘Boundaries’ by Cloud and Townsend’ Oct 3rd 2017) which says that what we sow is what we will reap. The one who sows good things will reap good things and the one who sows hurtful or destructive things into a relationship will reap the consequences of their behaviour.

Unless…

 Another person interrupts this law and reaps the consequences of their destructive behaviour…

for them.

This interrupter, who takes the weight and pain that is sown by someone else, who shields the person from the results of their destructive behaviour, is actually part of the problem and is contributing to ongoing trouble. They are enabling the person to continue the harm and not reap the results of their behaviour that may stimulate their desire to change.

If we find ourselves in a relationship that keeps us in pain, we can choose to stop and see if we are interrupting and bearing the weight and the pain of someone else’s wrong doing.

  Finding support and help to shift ourselves first,

                    … is a wise and productive way forward.