Adult To Adult- The Only Way To Go!

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 What’s the alternative you might ask?

 Adult relationships that express a one up/one down, superior/inferior or parent/child power balance will have a degree of unhappiness in them that can only be set right by shifting this pattern.

 It may seem surprising, but the one in the superior, one up or parent role in the relationship is not the one who will be most able or likely to choose, to make a change to the system that is operating in the relationship.

 In fact it is the one in the inferior, one down or child position that can take back control of their own life and move into an adult to adult equal position.

 The health of a relationship depends on two adults who respect each other and their separateness and seek to connect on a basis of empathy toward each other, listening and responding.

 It is possible to shift our internal makeup, if we find ourselves in the inferior or one down or the child position in relationships.

 We do this by defining honestly how we feel in our relationships, by listening to our heart to tell us whether things are going well and are healthy… or not.

 When we change and shift ourselves in a relationship, we need to be aware that we are also shifting the system that has previously operated and others may not appreciate this change .

 In a good relationship this can be navigated with personal growth and good communication, developing healthier internal boundaries and definition that ultimately will protect love.

 If this is a difficult or fearful thing to take back control of my own life……be encouraged…

There is much professional help and knowledge available, to support this internal and valuable growth.

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